The Do’s and Don’ts of Eulogy Speeches


First time eulogy givers are usually at a loss on what to do and not to do, both in delivering and making the speech at hand.

To start off, eulogy speeches are speeches made in order to observe the life of a deceased, recount good memories and at the same time, grieve for the passing away of a person dear to you. This is the reason why most people aim to make a eulogy about a deceased loved one that is as fitting and as faultless as possible. It is sort of a parting gift from the speaker to the subject of the speech.

If you still have no clue on what to do, here are some basic do’s and don’ts of eulogy speeches.

Do apportion a relatively substantial amount of hours in making the speech.

Do not rush the making of your speech as you will end up getting a very weak and poorly written speech that does not have any hint of sincerity.

Do include your fond memories of the deceased into the speech. Compile all the things you loved about him or her. List his or her very unique qualities and recount light anecdotes on how he or she made you laugh. Tell the audience what a good father or mother he is if that is in fact true. Just write down every thing you can think of first, the organization of the speech is for later. If you cannot seem to think of anything, ask other family members of the deceased, maybe they can contribute something to your speech.

Do not include bad details or bad habits of the person. Again, eulogy speeches are speeches made to celebrate life. So make sure you include details that will recount how he or she lived life to the fullest. Sure you may say these in passing just to acknowledge this part of his or her life but do not make the speech 50% about this.

Do include on the speech the great connections that he or she had with other family members, friends, colleagues, his or her spouse. These are very tangible events that will be great to include in a speech.

Do not mention if there happens to be any “bad blood” between the deceased and another family member.

Do try to keep the speech concise but full of particulars on how the deceased lived his or her life.

Do not make it too long, a 10 minute speech is more than enough actually.

Do ask help from a very trusted friend or relative in both the editing stage and the “rehearsal” stage of the making of your eulogy speech. After making the completed eulogy, rest for a day then edit it. Then, ask a friend to read your edited work. Then ask him or her to make suggestions as to how the speech will work better. After you have the final form, ask him or her to listen to you read your speech so you can see how the speech will sound like come the day of the funeral.

Do not think that you have to heed ALL your friend’s comments. After all, it is still your speech.


Source by Margaret Marquisi